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  1. Robyn
    Robyn September 23, 2014 at 3:23 pm |

    I believe the term you are looking for is “projection”. These things you accuse my brother of, are only all the tactics and abuse you subjected him to for 20+ years. I feel horrible that you created this web site to help others when you are just a sham. How do you think these ladies would feel of they knew that you were truly the abuser in this marriage? I think they would feel abused themselves and taken advantage of.

    I am glad you create this fantasy world so that you can live with yourself and sleep at night. My family thinks you leaving is the best thing that could have happened to my brother. We hoped you would leave years and years ago after witnessing your abuse towards him and your children. In fact, you even abused my mother when she visited you. My sweet father even proclaimed that they would never stay at your home again because of your abusive ways.

    Knock this shit off and own up to your mistakes. Maybe then, your children and even God can forgive you one day.

  2. Just Me
    Just Me September 23, 2014 at 3:43 pm |

    He kept saying I wanted to hurt him, or wanted hurt to come to him, whenever I’d try to talk about normal things like ways we could save money on the electric bill, or plans for a three day weekend. I was trying hard to not use an accusatory tone of voice, or phrase anything in a way that could be considered an insult to his manliness or whatever. If I mentioned money I was saying he didn’t make enough. If I mentioned an area where we disagreed, even if I did it pleasantly, I was trying to hurt his feelings. If I wanted to remind him that I needed some input from him for a family decision, I was nagging him. For the longest time I thought it was me. That I was just such an unpleasant person that everything that came out of my mouth was an insult, and I needed to watch what I said even closer. I’d rehearse anything I was going to tell him, for days and days, going over it, trying to see if there was anything remotely insulting in there. But he kept on accusing me of hurting him just by opening my mouth. He even threatened to carry out violence on himself on my behalf, the violence he claimed I wanted to happen to him. I didn’t want any violence to happen to him. I just wanted to ask if we could turn off the computers at night to save power. I just wanted to ask if he wanted to visit my parents on the weekend. Those things were all I wanted.

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